Marrige because of a kid?

[mary_nicole831]

Does anyone think that people should get married just because a guy got a woman pregnant?

I personally believe that a marriage with no love in it is worse than no marriage at all. Granted, I am marrying someone sooner than expected because of an unplanned pregnancy, but we were planning to get married later anyway. We just moved up the date. What does everyone here think about Marriage and pregnancy?? Just curious of everyone's opinion. (=

[Kerri]

I agree with you 100%. With your situation that is normal and nothing wrong with that! =)

If you get pregnant by a guy accidentally and you two really don't love each other, what's the point? Why would you want to be married and unhappy? That's no life! Not just for yourself but even for your kids, why stay married for the kids if you're unhappy....Kids aren't stupid, they know when their parents are unhappy with each other, mean, or always fighting.... I'm sure a child would rather be from a happy family who is divorced or split than being in the same home with parents that fight all the time and say hateful things in front of the kids.

[ProudYoungMomiie]

kerri said it all...no need to add to it.. well said girl!

[Andrea]

i did not get married because i got pregnant ... I actually had two children by the time I got married ... there dad and I decided we couldn't married just because we were having a baby yes we loved each other but we wanted to wait to get married until the time was right and we did

[mommyof3tx]

I agree with everyone else :)

[lucky_starr]

I agree!
My husband & I loved each other very much before I got pregnant, but after I had our daughter we got married. I don't think if I hadn't had her we would have never got married. So really me having the baby changed us as for marriage. But I'm glad we got married, I love him so much.



I agree with you 100%. With your situation that is normal and nothing wrong with that! =)



If you get pregnant by a guy accidentally and you two really don't love each other, what's the point? Why would you want to be married and unhappy? That's no life! Not just for yourself but even for your kids, why stay married for the kids if you're unhappy....Kids aren't stupid, they know when their parents are unhappy with each other, mean, or always fighting.... I'm sure a child would rather be from a happy family who is divorced or split than being in the same home with parents that fight all the time and say hateful things in front of the kids.

[Daniellesmommy]

i knew a girl who was pregnant and told me she was getting married for the baby so it didn't even sound like the father had a say and they ended up not being together i would never get married just cus i had a kid

[Khristine]

great responses everyone!

Kerri - I completely agree! :)

[Nicole]

I agree with everyone! I'm getting married in May and we are doing because it's the right time for us, not because I we have had a child together. He rushed into his first marriage because of his first daughter and he regretted doing it. (not his daughter, but rushing to marry).

[Kerri]

Thanks! I'm glad everybody here is happy with why they are getting married....and that's for the right reasons. True love not just to please anybody else.:balloonbear1:

[mary_nicole831]

Thanks for all the replies! I always love to hear what other people think.

[justthe4ofus]

My boyfriend and I have a daughter together and are expecting #2 in May! We have no plans to get married. We both love each other but it's just not right for me. Neither one of us are religious so thats not a reason for us. I lost a spouse 5 years ago and I just have this fear that if I marry my bf, he will die. Might sound weird but it's true. Also, and this sounds bad, my hubby was in the military and I get a lot of benefits from them. If I re-marry, they go away. This includes health insurance which would be a major cost.
I'm glad we have such an open minded group of mamas!

[lucky_starr]

I can understand your decision, I'd probably do the same thing.


My boyfriend and I have a daughter together and are expecting #2 in May! We have no plans to get married. We both love each other but it's just not right for me. Neither one of us are religious so thats not a reason for us. I lost a spouse 5 years ago and I just have this fear that if I marry my bf, he will die. Might sound weird but it's true. Also, and this sounds bad, my hubby was in the military and I get a lot of benefits from them. If I re-marry, they go away. This includes health insurance which would be a major cost.
I'm glad we have such an open minded group of mamas!

[mary_nicole831]

My boyfriend and I have a daughter together and are expecting #2 in May! We have no plans to get married. We both love each other but it's just not right for me. Neither one of us are religious so thats not a reason for us. I lost a spouse 5 years ago and I just have this fear that if I marry my bf, he will die. Might sound weird but it's true. Also, and this sounds bad, my hubby was in the military and I get a lot of benefits from them. If I re-marry, they go away. This includes health insurance which would be a major cost.
I'm glad we have such an open minded group of mamas!


That doesnt sound bad, those are benifits you need!monkey

[Khristine]

yes having benefits is very important if you have children!

and yes i love how everyone here is very open minded! very awesome group of mamas indeed!

[YummyMummyNat]

I got married when I was 6 months pregnant. I know the stigma isn`t about much nowadays but I didn`t want to be an unmarried mum. I wanted to do everything right. We had been together 3 months when we got engaged, then the month after we decided to try for a baby. We were so in love at the start and knew we had met our soulmates. We didn`t expect to fall pregnant so quickly (in the first month of trying) so we got married

[CherryAddictedMama]

I agree with all the posts so far :)

My friend got married during her pregnancy, and her reasoning was because she was pregnant, they are no longer together because he found he had interest in other women, and he left her. And now a month later she is telling me that she is in love with another man, so I would definitely say to any woman that wants to get married just because shes pregnant.....make sure there is true love there, because divorce is just about as expensive as a marriage (give or take a few thousand dollars)

Now with me and my so..... We have had plans to get married, but once again I am pregnant, and he informed me that there will be no wedding until I can fit into my wedding dress... (which I only see happening if I wear a gurdle since I bought this dress 2 pregnancies ago!) I doubt i am a size 6 anymore :(

[Jessalicious]

I think that getting married just because you get pregnant is wrong. RC and I weren't planning to get married just because I was pregnant. We were engaged before I ever got pregnant. Michael was 7.5 months old before we ever got married.

[YummyMummyNat]

Maybe some people (like me) don`t like the stigma although it isn`t around as much as it used to be

[Kay]

I completely agree with everyone, the only reason for a marriage is love!

[Dollface]

I really do not believe that people should be together just because of a baby. I know that when Kasey was born I had hoped her dad would at least try to see if we coul have a relationship but he had no interest in that. (I was a moron back then lol. I woulda been miserable with him.)

So I really do not think that someone shoul get married just cause they are pregnant together. although I will be the first to admit that after you have a baby outside of marriage and are not with the baby daddy, it is ALOT harder to find someone to be with. every guy I've thought was interested.. I just have found out they thought they'd get laid quickly cause I have a kid. Actually, most recently... I started talking to this guy and within a couple hours of texting he already thought he could ask how many people I had been with and etc. He was told off and I no longer will text him back.

[Mom2Girl3]

This is a touchy subject. If you would have asked me 6 years ago if I would get married if pregnant I probably would have said Yes. Just because of how I was raised. I do come from a religous back ground (even though at times thats hard to believe if you know me). I still believe that its wrong to have a child outside of wed lock, but I do understand now that we all make mistakes. I have asked for forgivness over and over again and one day will make it right. I'm just not ready to be married.

[lil_mama2009]

u ladies have said it all well said girls.

[Dollface]

I think its a bigger sin to marry for the wrong reasons and end up divorce than it is to get pregnant outside of marriage

[Lindsey]

i will be honest i wish i would of never got married....
For LOTS of reasons...
but def i dont think because of a baby should people get married...
My hubby and i got married Sept of 07 and our daughter was born Feb of 07...
I was having major health probs and i needed his insurance or i wasnt gonna be able to have surgery without paying for it all upfront so we got married at the courthouse and it was so unromantic and we never had a honeymoon or anything.... i wish we would have waited so we could of done it the right way...dont get me wrong i love the man to death, been with him since i was 17 but i wish i could of had a wedding a wore a dress

[Dollface]

why don't you have a wedding ceremony and renew your vows?

[Live4Kids]

I think a vow renueal is a good idea.
With my religious beliefs I wouldn't put myself in that situation. At the same time I wouldn't get married because I was pregnant. getting married is a holy union. You are vowing to one another to be together till death do us part. In the ceremony you are committing to each other not the child. With out love for another there are more windows open for sins to be committed like Adultery. IMO

[CherryAddictedMama]

i will be honest i wish i would of never got married....
For LOTS of reasons...
but def i dont think because of a baby should people get married...
My hubby and i got married Sept of 07 and our daughter was born Feb of 07...
I was having major health probs and i needed his insurance or i wasnt gonna be able to have surgery without paying for it all upfront so we got married at the courthouse and it was so unromantic and we never had a honeymoon or anything.... i wish we would have waited so we could of done it the right way...dont get me wrong i love the man to death, been with him since i was 17 but i wish i could of had a wedding a wore a dress


I understand completely, me and my x husband got married in the unromantic courthouse setting, but had planned to have a bigger ceremony later in the year, which never happened.

You could still have your romantic dream wedding tho!